With our own physical senses letting us perceive and evaluate all the differences around us, the tendency to compare ourselves to everybody else has become a common thing. With the proliferation of modern technology and social media, you may find that this comparison has been a practiced habit for most of us, without realizing its negative effects in our well-being and emotional health. In this post, I intend to share with you 5 reasons why should you stop comparing yourself to others, and instead embrace your individuality and inherent freedom to be who you are in these modern times.
1. Because you are uniquely yourself with a life path that is only yours.
It may sound like a cliche but you truly did not intend to conform or be measured against other people because you came into this life innately knowing that you will live your own path, with your own set of goals, desires and preferences. Always remember that the Universe never creates pointless things. And since you are here, it means the Universe wants to express something different through you, and your unique perspective in this life matters a lot. And comparing yourself to others means not valuing the fact that you have a distinct perspective that is only yours.
Nobody else can be you. You are creating your own experiences, and you are enjoying this freedom of being your own self and coming up with your own decisions in life. Always remember that you have a special path that is unfolding differently from everyone else. Don’t damage your own natural self-worth and value whenever you try to compare yourself to others who are also unique on their own.
2. Because you will always be left confused when you use other people as your guidance, instead of using your own.
Comparing yourself to what other people are living or what they are preferring for themselves will always leave you powerless and confused in the process because you are essentially making their path right and yours wrong. You are using them as your guidance instead of turning inward for what truly feels right for you. Remember that there will never be a definite conclusion as to which way of living is righter than another. There are as many right paths as there are individuals on planet Earth.
The life that you have lived has shaped your preferences and beliefs about things, that is why you would naturally come to different conclusions and opinions about certain topics in life. The tendency to compare will just train you to look outside for validation of your own value and worthiness, instead of knowing that the decisions you made are valid in their own unique way, and others’ are too. Don’t ever forget your value by needlessly comparing your decisions to things and people who are all meant to be different from you to begin with.
3. Because when you try to understand where others are coming from and why others are the way they are, you are messing up your own energy.
Putting your attention and energy towards things you do not have control of will just create negative emotions and low vibrations in you, such as jealousy, anger, frustration or depression. You will be introducing resistance in your thoughts as you entertain questions you do not have clear answers to. Comparing who you are with the people outside of you will just give your power away, will eat away your happiness, and will take you farther from your core, from self-love. Your energy will get scattered all over the place, instead of being centered in your being.
You will also never completely understand the journey that another has taken to get to where they are now, that’s why comparing your own journey to theirs will just create unnecessary assumptions, negativity and uncertainty in your vibrations. You are sabotaging your own journey as you try to measure and compare yours to theirs from a very limited perspective.
4. Because what others have done or accomplished is irrelevant. The only thing that would really matter is your own alignment with what you want.
The only thing in life that you need to take measure of is where you are energetically in relation to the things that you want in life. Where others are is really unimportant because they have their own energy relationship with their own desires. Take them out of the picture, as your only job is to tend to your own management of energy to make sure that you are taking care of the gap between you and how you feel about what you want. Stay true to your purpose by listening to your own truth within. You came here for your unique purpose so never let what anybody is doing get in the way of that.
5. Because there’s always going to be something greater and something lesser on this physical level of existence.
On this level of form where we physically are, there will always be a greater than or less than in comparison to something else. You will be in a never-ending struggle, misery and pain when you try to compare and compete with everyone else, because you will never get to an ending place of satisfaction when you are in a habit of comparison. You will always end up feeling doubtful, incomplete or incapable as you engage in a spiral of evaluating yourself against others. And when you are able to accept this truth, what will remain is a calm self-acceptance and self-love for who you are in every moment — that in every moment you are enough, without the need to be different than who you are now.
Over To You…
Which of these 5 reasons why you should stop comparing yourself to others do you agree with the most? Tell us in the comment box below 🙂
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Wishing you more light, love and happiness in your journey! Namaste 🙂
Iona Kristina
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