Every day, we are interacting with different kinds of people with varying behaviors, views and opinions from our own – at home, in our workplace, at school, or even online in social media. And most of us often lose our control of our own reactions and emotions as we let other people influence and dictate that for us. And you might be wanting to know some practical tips on how to see good in others, how you can be more in control of the way you feel towards other people, how to easily practice compassion and understanding regardless of how they behave, and how to see their unwanted behavior in a way that doesn’t harbor negative energies in you.
In this article, I will be sharing the 5 things to know to help you see the good in others and the world, to view every person in a good light, and move along in your life journey feeling appreciation for everyone you encounter, emanating love for all wherever you are.
1. Know that everyone you meet is a teacher. Everyone has a lesson to give.
There is always a benefit or value in your every rendezvous. Nothing is incidental, no interaction has ever gone to waste. Every experience with another person is either giving you what you want, teaching you something you need to learn, or letting you know and remember a part of who you are. Looking for the lesson or value from an unwanted interaction will take away the negativity, anger or hatred within you. It will be replaced with gratitude and thankfulness for the opportunity to become better than you were before.
For anyone who is difficult, he or she is teaching you compassion and non-judgment. For anyone who mistreats you, it’s teaching you forgiveness. For anyone who neglects you, it’s teaching you to come to your own source of power and happiness within. For anyone who angers and disappoints you, it’s teaching you self-control. For anyone whom you feel a grudge or hatred towards, it’s teaching you to let go of the heaviness that’s not serving you. For anyone whom you feel jealous or envious of, he or she is teaching you self-love.
Always ask yourself, what opportunity is this person or interaction showing me?
2. Know that everyone is pure love at their core. Everyone is also on a journey back to love.
Regardless of how other people behaved, know that without all the negative conditioning and limiting beliefs in their minds, they are all the same as you are at the deepest core. We are all made from pure love, and therefore are inherently loving, joyful, kind, and peaceful beings.
Everyone’s purpose here on earth is to remember and journey back to who we truly are – to the love that is the essence of our being. You will be able to exercise compassion towards others when you understand that every behavior that is not in alignment with love is not who they really are. The past conditioning and misaligned perspectives of an individual can affect who they are being in the moment, but the essence of who they truly are remains the same.
Whenever you can, extend kindness and compassion. When you see everyone as love, you are shining the light on their core self and you are helping them see it for themselves. You are putting the energy to their truth and you are assisting them in returning back to pure love.
3. Know that what you give out is the only thing you need to take care of. The rest will be handled for you.
What you’re giving out to the world and to other people is the only thing that you need to tend to. The energy of love, appreciation, compassion and kindness emanating from you is the only thing you need to take control of to attract positive experiences for yourself. How other people will respond should truly be none of your concern and is not something you need to be bothered about. The positive energy that you give is what you’re after, not what you get back out of it.
As long as you are giving out energies that are aligned with your natural self, how others will respond won’t matter. The positive energies you’re giving will definitely come back, without the need to control the specific persons who will return those kindness and love to you. There is no need to put specific expectations on what you will get back from other people, but instead let life handle the intricate details for you. There will be no hatred, judgment, or unnecessary expectations that you will ever require from other people.
4. Know that everyone has the inherent freedom to choose. No one wants to be controlled.
When you recognize that everyone is born with the absolute freedom to choose their own perspectives, behaviors and actions in life, you will not feel the need to judge or control their own choices. You will allow them to be who they are choosing to be without feeling the need to change them. Every person is deciding for himself based on what he feels is right from where he is at the moment. There is no need for manipulation or control, and no need to over-analyze another person’s behavior. Whatever issues they have going on, you can allow them to sort it out within themselves.
This freedom that you allow for another will help them regain their own power to be in control of themselves. You will allow them to learn, grow and evolve at their own pace, without the need to pressure or coerce them into changing into something they’re not willing and ready for. This allowing will release the tension and uneasiness in you, and will also do the same for them.
5. Know that you are solely responsible for the way you feel at all times.
Always know that other people’s behavior may influence you but it is still ultimately your decision if you will allow them to influence the way you feel. No need to put the blame on another because you are always in control of the way you feel, thereby in control of your own happiness.
When something doesn’t feel right on the inside, you know that it is solely your thoughts and perspectives about a person or situation that need to be addressed. You are always in full control of how you will interpret and experience a particular interaction or event in your life, regardless of what the people around you are doing.
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