When we were all born into this life, we came as pure, unconditional love, full of worthiness, value, and zest for life. We all inherently know the love, joy and light that we are at our core. But as we grew up, we may have unconsciously allowed outside influences and false beliefs to block the inner joy of being that is natural to us. As a result, we may now sometimes find it a struggle to feel good about ourselves in the midst of everything that happens. In this article, I want to share with you 6 ways on how to truly feel good– how to make yourself happy when you feel lonely, and get yourself back to your true loving nature. Instead of looking for love outside, these ways will help you to open your own valve and allow self-love to flow through.
1. Put energy on yourself first.
Make it a priority to take care of your own emotions first, before you put energy and attention on other people and things. Establish a relationship within yourself first, instead of focusing on changing your outside circumstances or the people around you to make yourself feel better. As you focus internally rather than externally, you connect more deeply within yourself and understand the root cause of how you’re feeling. You come to understand your thought patterns and beliefs that are causing any sadness or discord, and you are able to soothe and talk yourself back to feeling good.
This will make sure you are whole and replenished on the inside, where true change only comes form, rather than forcing the outside to change your own feelings for you. You come back to your own power and you don’t go out into the world depleted, looking for happiness from all the wrong places. As you soothe yourself back to your core values of love, joy and peace, you can then get out there to radiate and share your aligned energy. When you are putting positive energy on yourself, first and foremost, you will be in the best position to bring your best to your every interaction and be of benefit to those you come into contact with because you have much energy to give away.
Make yourself the most important person in your life. Invest positive energy within yourself, and then you will have the energy to give to others. This will make you an attractive, magnetic person who attracts wonderful people and circumstances into your life.
2. Feel for what you want. Do things on your own terms.
Decide that you will listen to your own inner guidance regarding the actions and decisions you make. Your criteria for taking an action should be, “Is this what I truly want?” or “Will this decision make me feel good on the inside?”, rather than taking all kinds of guidance from the different people around you. Take the time to listen to the inner voice within you and go full on with what you feel is the best step from where you are, what brings you relief. It could be just a simple walk outside to relax yourself, or maybe a few minutes of meditation and silence, or probably a much-needed nap for the afternoon. What may feel good for others won’t necessarily be what will feel good for you. Refrain from taking half-hearted actions, as it will just amplify your misaligned energy and will drain you easily. You will create more tension and struggle within you as you do something that your heart and energy are not fully into.
3. Stop seeking validation or permission from the outside before you can feel better.
Examine for yourself if your loneliness stems from seeking validation or living off of other people’s opinions. Start letting other people off the hook, and let go of this need to please others and to follow what they want rather than what is true for you. Start working on something that you love without needing others to validate if it is the right thing for you to do. Follow your own bliss and always move toward what will give you the best fulfillment in life. Your heart always knows what’s best for you. Even if it sounds crazy for others but it is what’s calling you forward, you can trust and honor your own feelings, and follow it through for your own fulfillment. No one can fully understand who you are and what you want, except for you alone, that’s why needing other people to understand or agree with you before you can feel better about yourself will be a futile thing. Listen to your gut, your intuition, instead of letting other people make decisions for you.
4. Keep your heart open. Accept yourself fully as you are.
Do not close your heart, but instead allow yourself to fully embrace your own life experiences. Realize that whatever it is you are going through is part of your journey and evolution to becoming more of who you are meant to be. It is a blessing in itself for it teaches you what you need to learn to become more loving of yourself, of your life, and of others. Practice compassion for yourself by knowing that you are always evolving and progressing day by day, and compassion for others as well, by recognizing that every person has a leasson to teach you. Life is always bringing you what you need. As you love and accept others, you are also accepting and loving yourself.
5. Know that you are always good enough as you are now.
Always look at yourself as a unique being, who is neither superior nor inferior to anyone else. And that you are doing enough, without the need for comparison or judgment, regardless of where others are. Refrain from controlling things and people to be different from what they are now, but rather allow the right things to come into your life by knowing that you are enough and worthy of receiving your own good at the perfect time. Forcing and chasing will make you put more energy on the outside, rather than maintaining your own sense of power and value within, and trusting the higher forces of life to do the work for you. When you know who you are, what you want and what you’re capable of, you will develop confidence and true self-esteem, and be living out your own inner happiness and joy.
6. Give yourself the license to progress at your own pace.
Practice loving yourself unconditionally, regardless if good things happen or not so good things occur. Be patient and compassionate about yourself, and stay in love with who you are whatever stage in life you are in by giving yourself the leeway to explore and grow at your own timing. Always recognize the perfection of your own unfolding, blessing each delay, detour, and setback because you know they’re all serving your life well, even if you don’t yet have all the details right now.
I hope these 6 ways on how to make yourself happy has been helpful and enlightening for you. Always remember that the key to your own happiness is within you all along. You hold the power, you just have to become aware that you do 🙂
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As always, wishing you more love. light and happiness 🙂
