Many times in our lives, we are receiving negative feedback or hurtful commentaries from other people, from our bosses, teachers, parents, colleagues or significant others. With this constant rejection, we have the tendency to let it define us, and allow it to damage our value and self-worth. We instantly acknowledge and regard the rejection as a truth, without having a deeper understanding of what it truly conveys.
In this article, I’m going to share with you my own perspective on how to deal with constant rejection — the four things to know to have the ability to let rejection easily pass through you.
1. Know that everything a person says is just plain opinion and you can always choose not to buy into it. You always get to decide.
With every opinion being given to you, you are always in the position to choose if you’re letting it in or not. The hurt or anger that you may feel, after hearing a negative feedback for example, is only a product of you buying into what they say and allowing it to affect your beliefs and emotions. When you do not accept an opinion and let it stay where it is, you are actually making the opinion remain in the possession of the one who’s giving it away. You can always decide to not take it with you.
People are free to state what they want and give their opinions away, but it doesn’t mean you have to take it automatically and assume that the opinion is already a part of who you are. It is always your prerogative to select which opinions you’re buying into. It is always your choice to not let the rejection be what you believe yourself to be.
Set the currency of your standards higher and don’t just buy into anything, especially those that do not add value to your well-being. As picky as you are with the foods you eat or the clothes you wear, pick the opinions that you will allow to get into your life. More than the foods you eat, a healthy life means having healthy thoughts and beliefs as well.
2. Know that every rejection is a blessing in disguise. You can bless the opportunity it brings.
When taken from the perspective that every rejection blesses you with something, it widens your perspective, and strengthens your emotional and spiritual muscles so that nothing others do or say on the outside can threaten your joy and happiness on the inside. Whenever someone says a derogatory comment about you and rejects your capabilities, you can bless the situation, for instance, for the opportunity it brings to show your compassion and self-control.
Understand that people who are critical of others are the ones who have the most criticism for themselves. People who are criticizing are actually the ones hurting, whether they are conscious of it or not. And when you have this deeper understanding and compassion for other people, the seeming rejection won’t harbor anger or hatred within you. Rather, you will bless them on their own journey to healing themselves.
The battle that they have is within them and is not actually with you. You will bless the circumstance for showing to you something that you have already healed within yourself and that you do not want to cultivate anymore in your life.
3. Know that in the bigger scheme of things, nothing needs to be taken too seriously in life, including rejection.
When you have a solid foundation of who you are as a person, and you know your own value, your own standards and self-worth, you know that these truths of who you are cannot be threatened regardless if somebody is rejecting you. You will not take it to heart because you are at peace and secure within yourself, and nothing outside will be too serious enough to give up your peace for.
You will be able to let rejection freely pass through you because you are not anymore allowing them to stay and stick with your current thoughts and beliefs. Whenever you hear derogatory words, you already know that they are merely words that do not need to have seriousness attached to them. You let them flow through the distance, without needing to put your attention and energy towards them. This will cultivate an emotional and spiritual maturity where you do not have the inclination anymore to react to the many opinions outside, and you are prioritizing your peace and self-love at all times.
4. Know that rejection doesn’t rob you of your worthiness in any way. Worthiness is already who you are.
You are already inherently worthy and blessed coming into this life. You were born with it. It’s your birthright and your essence. It’s not something you need to justify, earn or prove to anyone. You are naturally worthy and enough just as you are now because you exist in this life. And when you truly know this, no kind of rejection can lessen your worth or put you in an unworthy category. Know that it is innate and deep-rooted in you, just like in everybody else as well.
Over To You…
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